Our Babies, Ourselves – Meredith Small

1998

Overview:

Anthropologist Meredith Small examines how human infants are raised in cultures around the world — and how deeply biology and culture intertwine in shaping parenting practices. From co-sleeping to feeding to soothing, she shows that what we consider “normal” in parenting is far from universal. Instead, parenting is a reflection of social values, economic systems, and evolutionary history.

Why It’s Included:

This foundational book validates many natural parenting practices — including extended breastfeeding, babywearing, and responsive nighttime parenting — by showing they are not new, but globally consistent with human biology. It gently dismantles the Western narrative of independence and promotes nurturing, connected caregiving.

Who It’s For:

Perfect for new parents, birth workers, and educators seeking cross-cultural reassurance and biological context for gentle parenting approaches. A powerful read for those questioning mainstream advice and wanting to trust their instincts.

Personal Notes:

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Further Reading:

The Anthropology of Childhood – David F. Lancy

Mothers and Others – Sarah Blaffer Hrdy

Our article: “Human Babies Are Designed to Be Held”